"When I was faced with unexpected career change it was incredibly lonely... even for someone who had coached hundreds of people through that process before!"
I would wake up with anxiety and (for just a moment), I would hope it might be a dream, but then with a sinking feeling I would realise it wasn't. I felt lost. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do and all I really wanted was just to feel safe and productive again.
Whether the change you are experiencing is job loss, business closure or just big change at work that seems out of your control, I get it. I've been there!
The hardest part for me was the daily confidence beatings. It wasn't rejection that hurt... it was the silence. Working for hours on applications, waiting to hear back and then nothing.
There was a lie I told myself, that I wasn't contributing to my family. I felt fatigue from the bombardment of well meaning advice and despite being surrounded by beautiful friends and family, I felt alone.
I blamed myself. I overthought and I overindulged in shame.
I learned three very valuable lessons from my experience.
Been there, done that! The most applauded career coach in the world doesn't get it unless they've been there. It's got to be a balance between pragmatism and empathy.
Pool your knowledge. There is so much happening in the job market it's impossible to stay up to date on everything. You need a collective to stay abreast of job market trends, secrets and hacks!
Join a tribe. Going it alone is slow, arduous and scary! I collected a group around me who got it. They are knowledgeable, non-judgmental and supportive.
Now more than ever we need to support one another through this unprecedented employment maze.
Reach out and stop going it alone!